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Happy First Birthday Robert

On Robert’s birthday we had a star named after him funded by the Loma Linda Shining Star Fund.  Kinko’s was not open by the time I got the certificate so I will be handling that on Sunday or Monday and will make that available here to view.

I do have a picture from Google Earth that shows Robert’s star.  You can see that here.

 I will update this post when I get everything complete.

Making A Donation To Robert’s Fund

If you would like to mail in your donation:

First you will need to print the donation form. You can get this here: Donation Form
If you are paying by credit card fill out the form and mail it to the address on the bottom of the form.
If you are paying by check you do not need to fill out the form any further. Just mail the form and a check made out to:
Loma Linda University Children’s Hospital Foundation with In memory of Robert Carroll-Stamp in the memo section to the address on the bottom of the form.

Loma Linda University Children’s Hospital Foundation
11175 Mountain View Avenue Suite A
Loma Linda, CA 92354

To make a donation online you will need to do the following:

Click on this link to bring up the Loma Linda Site.
https://ssweb.llu.edu/llu/bwakzgft.P_DispWebGift?fv_AreaLevel1=LLUCH
On this page you will fill in line 5 with: Robert Matthew Carroll-Stamp Shining Star LLUCH
The drop down box must be changed to: LLUMC
Then enter the amount you wish to donate.
Click submit and it will guide you through the rest.

Also if you wish you can donate over the phone:

The number is (909)558-3555. This will connect you directly to someone that can help you.

The Robert Matthew Carroll-Stamp Fund

A fund is in the process of being set up and will be available for use by Loma Linda Children’s Hospital – Cardiac Care Unit.  I will of course get the info posted when it becomes available.  I am also going to see if I can get something setup so people may donate online instead of mailing in a check.  I will post more when I have it though.

 
 

Services For Robert

The visitation of Robert will be on Thursday 11/30 from 5:00pm to 8:00pm.  The Mass for Robert will be on Friday 12/1 at 10:00am and the interment will follow after.  All friends and family are welcome.  If you would like directions and more details please contact me and I will email them to you.

 
 

Making some plans

Gina and I believe we have found a Mortuary, Cemetery, and Church for Robert.  We are in the process of making plans and believe that the services will probably fall somewhere between Wednesday and Friday.  I will post the dates and times when I have them available.

 
 

Rest In Peace My Son. God Be With You.

November 23, 2006 at 4:19pm Robert Matthew Carroll-Stamp died.

That morning the doctors told both Gina and I that the Cardiologist did another echocardiogram and found that Robert’s heart function was worse then the day before. The doctors explained to us that his heart was failing him. The Cardiologist said that the medication Robert was getting for his heart was at its maximun, any more they felt would just damage the heart more. The Cardiologist was concered that if his heart were to fail that there is not much more they could do.

The doctors also explained to Gina and I that Robert was having prolonged seizures lasting up to 15 minutes long that were manifesting physically. This was not focused on one section of his body anymore, but all over. Robert’s mouth, tongue, eyes, eyelids, neck, right arm, and right leg would all move independently for a long period of time. The Neurologist told Gina and I that Robert was having almost continuous seizures without any physical signs. Robert was no longer responding to the 3 different seizure medications he was receiving. The Neurologist told Gina and I that Robert’s brain would not respond to anti-seizure medication because the amount of damage was too great. Gina and I were told that Robert might survive a few more hours to a few more days, but doctors were expecting only a few more hours. Gina and I decided that it was time. After the family had their chance to say goodbye, Gina and I held our son one more time before we withdrew support.

Update

There has been some change.  Robert’s seizure activity has increased.  The Neurologist feels Robert has suffered significant brain damage to the entire brain, specifically higher function.  He feels some basic function may still be intact.

The cardiac surgeon removed the ECMO machine from Robert today.  It was against what we wanted but the surgeon felt we were wasting resources.  Robert has consumed about 3 gallons of blood throughout his stay, which he was bleeding just about as fast as it was going in.  It was not thought that he was going to live through this procedure, but he surprised us all.  After a little drop in blood pressure the doctors adjusted his heart medications and was able to get Robert to tolerate pumping without any help.

Even though Robert’s seizure activity has increased Gina and I would like to wait till Friday to make any further decisions.  The cardiac surgeon has set up an MRI to evaluate Robert’s brain further.  At that point I feel we will be in a better position to make a final decision.

There is more to say but it is time to go to bed.  I will write more tommorow.

Update

Gina and I have spoken to the Neurologist and he has informed us that Robert is having an increased amount of seizures.  The EEG showed also that these were occurring throughout the entire brain.  The left frontal lobe had a lot of activity and is not responding to medications meant to stop the seizures.  Later this morning the right side began to be non-responsive to medication also.  The Neurologist also gave some plan and simple facts.  He felt that Robert has received substantial brain damage as a loss of blood and subsequently loss of oxygen to the brain.  He feels that the continuation of the ECMO machine is rather futile.  He said that he was in this morning and tried some basic reaction and reflex tests and Robert was completely non-responive.  The Neurologist said he tried as best he could to make Robert uncomfortable and he just gave no response.  The Neurologist made it clear that although Robert is sedated he should have some reaction. 

Robert’s pupils since yesterday were non-responsive to light changes.  The Neurologist said that this is only because of the brain damage he has received.  The Neurologist said the heart surgeon would like to keep Robert on the ECMO for one more day as he felt the heart may still improve.  Although the Neurologist feels that even if the surgeons could get Robert’s heart working great his brain would not recover.  It seems at this point I really have to let my son go and stop his now unconcious but constant suffering.  Although Robert is thought to at this point to feel no pain I feel these seizures as a type of suffering. 

From what Gina and I have discussed we feel that Friday 11/24 we will turn off the ECMO unless God willing some improvements happen.

The Story

As you may or may not know Robert is in the hospital at Loma Linda.  Let me first give you a bit of history.

Starting last week, Robert began to sweat more than usual when he was feeding and his limbs were cooler.  From what we understood, the sweating just meant his heart was working too hard and needed some rest.  The cooler limb issue we chalked up to the type of clothes he was wearing, since he was wearing pants with open feet instead of the more common one piece with covered feet.  We put socks on his feet and thought he was fine.  It seems these were signs of lowered blood flow because of the shrinking VSD (Ventricular Septal Defect) and the beginning of congestive heart failure.  However, we were never educated about what signs to look for and never thought that this was coming.  No one even warned us of how potentially lethal and explosive a common infection could become.

He originally went in for difficulty breathing at San Antonio Hospital on Saturday, and they treated him for an infection with possible pneumonia and congestive heart failure.  His skin color was grey or ashy and showing definite signs of low blood flow and oxygen.  After they were unable to get a reading from the pulse/oxygen meter they just opted to give him oxygen.  After some further testing they found that his sugar level was at 2, which they also treated him for by giving him dextrose.  At this point, Robert began to look lethargic while laying on the bed.  He was still conscious and looking at us, but his movements where very slow.  They made it clear that they would not be able to treat him there and requested he be transferred to Loma Linda.  He eventually was, and there his outlook changed.

His doctors at Loma Linda felt he had congestive heart failure but they were not convinced about the pneumonia.  Instead, they said that he had sepsis from an overwhelming infection and that it needed to be treated immediately and that he was very sick and in a critical state.  His liver was swollen and his kidneys were failing.  A Cardiologist was called in to look at his heart.

The Cardiologist found was that the VSD had almost completely closed up, so it was supplying almost no flow to the body or brain.  Was it enough to provide his brain with the oxygen needed?  He did not know.  Later, the Cardiologist said that the type of surgery he had at Cedars Sinai was exactly the type that the Loma Linda doctors stay away from because this is a known outcome.  He suggested a procedure called the Damus Kaye Stansel with a BT (Blalock-Taussig) Shunt.  He said that this is the surgery Robert should have had in the first place, not the Pulmonary Artery Band or Atrial Septostomy.

The next morning the surgeon came by and took Robert in to emergency surgery, where he would do this new procedure to get correct flow to Robert’s body and brain.  He felt it was a last ditch effort to save Robert’s life.  After about 8 hours the surgery was over and it was successful, although Robert needed to stay on the ECMO (Extracorporeal Membrane Oxygenation) machine to help his now exhausted heart.  The surgeon said that he was still very sick and that, although the surgery was successful, Robert was far from being out of the woods just yet.

Today Robert is sedated, on the ECMO machine, and is still in sepsis shock.  His liver is still swollen and his kidneys are still not functioning.  He is bleeding 100cc an hour from his surgery site as a result of the ECMO machine.  This is because they must keep the blood thin enough so it doesn’t clot in the machine but thick enough so his wounds do clot.  Although 100cc is a lot, they hope his liver will regain function and start the clotting process soon.  They have also stopped hemodialysis (cleaning of the blood through the ECMO machine) with the hope that higher levels of normally occurring toxins will trigger the kidneys into action.  If the levels get unhealthful, they will start hemodialysis again.

Robert also had two seizure episodes of the right arm.  They explained that this happens because of a loss of oxygen to the brain.  The seizures could be coupled with brain damage or not.  There is really no way to tell until he awakes.

Throughout the next few days they will ultrasound his heart and look at its function.  If it doesn’t improve within about 4 days or so they will stop heart support.  Any improvement will, of course, extend their willingness to continue support.  They will also be doing some brain images to look for hemorrhages.  If there is any blood on the brain, they will stop heart support.  This is because the thin blood needed for the heart machine is not thick enough to stop the bleeding on the brain; the bleeding on the brain would just get bigger and bigger.

At this point, we just wait around and hope for some improvement with Robert’s heart, kidneys, and liver.  I will try to update this more as I get new information.

There was some recent development that we were at first optimistic about.  First, it seemed like Robert was trying to breathe on top of the respirator, which would have meant that his body was trying to take over.  Unfortunately this was not the case.  It was actually just a problem with the piping.  When the piping was changed out, the supposed over breathing stopped.  Then there was also some movement of his face, eyes, fingers and toes.  We felt good about this, but this could occur regardless of what condition Robert’s brain is in.

Robert is now also on an EEG machine to record his brain electrical impulses.  In the morning the Neurologist will examine this and make a determination whether or not his impulses are normal or abnormal.  They explained that this is a crude measurement, but will give us some idea of the brain’s state.

So for now we wait.

Robert is in the hospital

Robert is at Loma Linda Hospital.  He is in critical condition.  I will give more information later.